Communication is key in a relationship, but it needs to be the correct type. Everything we say is associated with a deeper level of communication, often expressed through tone and nonverbal cues. The most important aspect of communicating effectively is putting forth your greatest effort to truly listen. As much as you may try to put your point across, there is no purpose in trying to talk if you are not willing to understand what the other person is trying to say. Sincerely putting yourself in their situation and striving to understand not only their words, but the meaning and feelings behind them, will allow you to come to a deeper connection with your spouse or whoever else you converse with.
Transparency in communication is not the same as being brutally honest. Some couples believe that in order to truly understand each other every idea or thought that comes to mind needs to be shared. This is not the case. There are definitely situations where communication is strongly encouraged, but there are also certain topics that are better left alone. It is common belief that if a problem is not discussed it will become bottled up and will explode which does happen very often. However, some issues that we find ourselves dealing with are very one sided and petty. There are many instances where we should first analyze our own thoughts and feelings before deciding how to react.
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